Thanks for answearing.  And you are right i should learn to be more patient  
 
  
  Yes in my port routing tables, I have this ports opened to my host pc computers ip address.   I do believe that is right in my setup or they would not be able to connect halfway to my host pc.  Like i said i can see them connected and the game says there connected but after a minute they get a message on there end that they cannot connect to host.. but i still see them as connected on my host pc.